Happy Birthday to My Dear Dead Husband

Happy Birthday to my dear dead husband. There are certain milestones that a griever has to go through on their journey. The first year is the hardest because you hit all of these milestones for the first time. Some come around in their time as the following years travel their cycle. In my opinion, the birthday of a beloved deceased is one of the worst. Today was that day for me.

It’s totally weird to be saying happy birthday to someone who has passed away. They’re dead, they can’t celebrate one year getting older because they aren’t getting any older. Their permanently paused at the age that they were when they passed. In my case, my husband will be 40 forever, while I keep getting older. Today, I’m older than him by three years. That’s a mind blaster considering that I was four years younger than him. Yet, I need to once again acknowledge this by saying Happy Birthday to my dear dead husband.

Today, I am wishing happy birthday to my dear dead husband because it’s a way to celebrate the life we had together, while also honouring where he would be now if he was living. Being aware of this moment is a touchstone point, a time when I can reach out to his ghost and feel him again, even if it’s just in my mind. There are two bookends which are important in acknowledging his life: his birthday and his death day.

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If You Are Looking To Comfort A Widow

I’m sure there are many of you out there who have friends who have lost a loved one. Please know that they need your constant support. At the beginning, there is always an outpouring of love but after some time people go back to their everyday lives. Grievers can’t do that. Their “normal” lives have veered completely off track.

Reach out to your friend. Let them know that you acknowledge with them the anniversary of their dear dead husband’s death. Tell them that you are there with them in solidarity. A widow feels especially alone on these milestones, and they are craving someone to understand how amazing their dearly departed was. To never forget. Even just reaching out in a comment on a post or text will do wonders.

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If You Are A Widow, How to Say Happy Birthday to Your Dear Dead Husband

This day is hard. You have to deal with the fact that your loved one is still gone, yet they are still alive and well in your memories.

There are several ways you can celebrate.

 

  • If they have a Facebook profile or any other social medium, post on their wall. Tell them how much you love them, as if they were still here.

  • Carry something that identifies their personality on you. For me, my husband wore a particular hat everyday. This hat still carries his scent, even after the years. On his birthday, I carry this hat close to me to wish happy birthday to my dear dead husband.

  • If you have children with them, acknowledge this day with them by making a birthday cake, and blow out the candles with them.

Acknowledge the day by feeling whatever feelings you have at this moment. That is a testament of love in itself.

 

 

 

 

 

Happy Birthday to my Dear Dead Husband

You’re one year older, or would have been if you were still alive. Even though you died years ago, I still remember you and celebrate who you were. I will continue celebrating your birthday, because it celebrates your life as it was, and I will continue to do so.

Grief does get easier, but it’s always there in the background. Ready to pop out and surprise with another wave of sadness. Today, on the day of your birth, I celebrate your life. As it was. And will always be. As my love for you will be as well.

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Happy Birthday to my dear dead husband. There are certain milestones that a griever has to go through on their journey. The first year is the hardest because you hit all of these milestones for the first time. Some come around in their time as the following years travel their cycle. In my opinion, the birthday of a beloved deceased is one of the worst. Today was that day for me.
It’s totally weird to be saying happy birthday to someone who has passed away. They’re dead, they can’t celebrate one year getting older because they aren’t getting any older. Their permanently paused at the age that they were when they passed. In my case, my husband will be 40 forever, while I keep getting older. Today, I’m older than him by three years. That’s a mind blaster considering that I was four years younger than him. Yet, I need to once again acknowledge this by saying Happy Birthday to my dear dead husband.
Today, I am wishing happy birthday to my dear dead husband because it’s a way to celebrate the life we had together, while also honouring where he would be now if he was living. Being aware of this moment is a touchstone point, a time when I can reach out to his ghost and feel him again, even if it’s just in my mind. There are two bookends which are important in acknowledging his life: his birthday and his death day.

If You Are Looking To Comfort A Widow

I’m sure there are many of you out there who have friends who have lost a loved one. Please know that they need your constant support. At the beginning, there is always an outpouring of love but after some time people go back to their everyday lives. Grievers can’t do that. Their “normal” lives have veered completely off track.

Reach out to your friend. Let them know that you acknowledge with them the anniversary of their dear dead husband’s death. Tell them that you are there with them in solidarity. A widow feels especially alone on these milestones, and they are craving someone to understand how amazing their dearly departed was. To never forget. Even just reaching out in a comment on a post or text will do wonders.

If You Are A Widow, How to Say Happy Birthday to Your Dear Dead Husband

This day is hard. You have to deal with the fact that your loved one is still gone, yet they are still alive and well in your memories.

There are several ways you can celebrate.

  • If they have a Facebook profile or any other social medium, post on their wall. Tell them how much you love them, as if they were still here.
  • Carry something that identifies their personality on you. For me, my husband wore a particular hat everyday. This hat still carries his scent, even after the years. On his birthday, I carry this hat close to me to wish happy birthday to my dear dead husband.
  • If you have children with them, acknowledge this day with them by making a birthday cake, and blow out the candles with them.

Acknowledge the day by feeling whatever feelings you have at this moment. That is a testament of love in itself.

Happy Birthday to my Dear Dead Husband

You’re one year older, or would have been if you were still alive. Even though you died years ago, I still remember you and celebrate who you were. I will continue celebrating your birthday, because it celebrates your life as it was, and I will continue to do so.

Grief does get easier, but it’s always there in the background. Ready to pop out and surprise with another wave of sadness. Today, on the day of your birth, I celebrate your life. As it was. And will always be. As my love for you will be as well.

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I’m Sarah!

I created this site to be a safe place for those who are under a tremendous amount of stress. My focus is two-fold: helping those who have experienced grief learn how to live through it; and helping solo parents bring their all to their kids, without losing their minds.

My goal is to tell our continuing story to help other widow/ers of young kids find hope and inspiration again. I want to help guide you along your path of grief, through the shadows and pain to a better, brighter life. To help you live with death, while embracing life.

 

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