The Days Are Full

The original plan didn't include being an only parent

My goal is to tell our continuing story to help other widow/ers, single or only parents – any parent having a bad day – find hope and inspiration again. I want to help guide you along your path of grief, through the shadows and pain to a better, brighter life. To help you live with death, while embracing life.

I created this site to be a safe place for those who are under a tremendous amount of stress. My focus is two-fold: helping those who have experienced grief learn how to live through it; and helping solo parents bring their all to their kids, without losing their minds. 

When my son was 2 1/2 years old, his father died. It wasn’t expected. It was unbelievably devastating. He was my soulmate. We still had so many unfinished plans, including our intention to have another child.

We were planning on calling our kids “The Danger Squad”. Tristan, as the eldest, was to be named after the best romantic knight ever. Alexander/ra was to be named after the ancient conqueror. Both kids were to have the same middle name of Danger.

Now, my husband gone, our dream of having two children seemed dead too.

I took a year to rebuild my life as an only parent.

After that first death anniversary, I was determined to go forward and have the second child Myke and I had planned. On my own. I didn’t want my dream to die with Myke, and I didn’t want Tristan to ever be alone after I eventually pass.

The next year was a whirlwind of activity, including figuring out where we were going to live as our rental house was being sold out from under us. During my rental hunt, I got the news that I was pregnant after my first IUI – this just clinched my steadfastness that this child was meant to be.

As she developed in my uterus, I decided to amend her intended name a little to Alyxandra – the Y in tribute to her Sky Daddy.

The days are full

My life with my little family is so full, so busy, so full of love…so exhausting…but I have absolutely no regrets in my decision to raise two kids on my own. My Knight and my Warrior. I tell stories of their Sky Daddy whenever life inspires them. I live harder, and with more passion than ever, because I myself am a warrior and a compassionate knight, who has learned how to temper grief into strength and wants to help others.

My goal is to tell our continuing story to help other widow/ers, single or only parents – any parent having a bad day – find hope and inspiration again. I want to help guide you along your path of grief, through the shadows and pain to a better, brighter life. To help you live with death, while embracing life.

It’s a unique path that I wouldn’t wish on anyone, but as death will inevitably shatter lives, I want to be there to help pick up the pieces.

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